Their smiles my reason to get up in the morning.
To grow in life successfully, a person has to have a reason to “Get Up In The Morning,” Do you have one? As I strongly feel, if you do so, then nothing can stop you from scaling great professional and personal heights.
There are some important events in our life that call for higher responsibilities like marriage, the birth of a child, supporting your child to achieve his or her dreams, giving your child the best of education probably in the finest of the university, providing your family a robust lifestyle and equal responsibilities towards you achieving great heights professionally. Each of these events demands you to take responsibility and step up your act.
I am sure many of you must have experienced a sleepless night after your first child was born, thinking about how I can provide the best education, the best place to live in, the best of health, and overall best of life for him or her and for your entire family. If you had similar nerves when you got married and for every such important event you felt jittery & nervy, be proud of yourself. “You are alive and kicking.” Each one of you then has a reason to “Get Up in the Morning”.
Throughout my professional and personal life, I have encountered individuals who do not know what to do besides their daily routine after getting up every morning. What is that strong “Genuine reason or that trigger to Get Up in the Morning” Every Morning? A terrifying state of mind, where many can’t see in what direction their life is heading.
I have asked this question to many of my professional colleagues and individuals whom I know, and the reply was very stereotyped; just a few that I recount:
- “I have my monthly sales and outstanding closing tomorrow”.
- “I have a presentation scheduled for tomorrow”.
- “Not much, I need to go to the office tomorrow. I am just worried about tomorrow being a Monday; how much traffic would I face”.
- “Tomorrow I have a client meeting”.
Unfortunately, for these and many more such routine day-to-day work functions though are important, take priority over the broader responsibilities of your Personal Life, Personal Visions mostly oriented towards upgrading you life and your family’s life.
One such real-life incident that still gives me jitters, was a conversation between me and my friend Vinod, which I realized later to be just his convenience. Vinod was narrating how great the understanding and bond existed between him and his wife, while my other friend Sachin was complaining about his wife being so demanding about lot of things. Vinod said, “I am lucky to have such a life partner”. This occurrence was almost 16 years ago, yet I recollect the same for the lack of empathy and the sense of responsibility many carry towards the institution called marriage or for that matter, any such important events in life. Vinod said, “My wife every Diwali used to ask for a J-s-n saree costing around Rs. 10000-15000 (a premium brand in sarees, cost for a saree some 16 years back) and every Diwali I use to say, not this Diwali we will buy it next Diwali by giving some excuse which she use to easily accept. The next Diwali, since I didn’t had that kind of amount to spend; I gave her some other excuse and the Diwali thereafter. After 3 consecutive Diwalis, she stopped asking; I was so happy she could understand buying such costly sarees was so uncalled for”. This statement of his annoyed me to the core so I asked, “What do you feel, was this your wife’s understanding or helplessness?”My friend left with great hustle and bustle from the scene, and I heard from someone that he still hates me for what I said to him that day.
This brings me to a launching point “Why do some of us make every situation and question raised by life a matter of convenience? Do we have a convenient answer for every difficult or uncomfortable question before even it has been raised? These questions become more relevant when we add responsibilities, especially when we expand our family after marriage.
There can’t be a greater frustration than to Get-Up in the morning, and you have nothing new to do. I feel if you have a reason to get up in the morning only then you are in control of your life; otherwise, I feel the circumstances and people around are controlling you.
Until we meet next time, ponder over this thought, “Weren’t you born Eagle, so are you flying high or stuck in the wrong company of chickens?”
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One can find absolutely minute observation of life and can get the brevity of the subject through this beautifully written excerpt of Life. Though the question asked in the story is bitter truth has to be accepted if desire to find the answer.
If It’s Sunday. You can wake up just to go back to bed. But tomorrow is quite another matter. ‘I love Mondays’, said nobody ever.
But if you ask the Japanese, they’ll seem less worried. Any day of the week they have their *ikigai* in place. What’s that? In simple terms, it’s your reason for being or the reason to wake up every morning.
Japanese —are known to be wise and grounded — having an ikigai makes you happy and gives you a longer life. Studies have shown globally that people with a definite purpose or strong passion in their lives lead far better lives than the ones who don’t.
In fact, a study published in “Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 83, 261-270, 2002.” with a survey of tens of thousands of Japanese adults showed that the ones with ikigai had far less stress in their lives, and hence live longer. The people from this region known to reside some of the longest-living human beings in the world!
Another study in the US showed that people with a sense of purpose had a 15 per cent lower risk of death compared with those who were more or less aimless.